A difficulty with coping, especially after a loss or trauma, is that most of us have a limited supply of ways to cope. If our tried and true ones don’t do the trick, we are in trouble and often don’t know where to turn. Let’s say we cope by exercising and our recent loss is a medical illness or injury that doesn’t allow us to exercise. What do we do instead? We “bark,” keeping ourselves, our family and the neighbors awake. Let’s find a way to fill our coping tool box so this never happens again. If things are going well now, there will be times ahead when we will need coping so now it the time to prepare.