Coping made easy

A Guide for Coping

Our Learned Coping Becomes Habitual

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When we learn coping in our families growing up, it becomes habitual without us knowing. Some of the coping we learn is not helpful. We get quiet when mad, holding our anger in and ignoring it, or we talk more when nervous. Other coping we learn is positive – using the support of our families appropriately, taking a long bath when stressed, and getting rid of negative thoughts by working in the garden. We can optimize our coping by becoming aware of it, eliminating ineffective coping, and adding new more effective coping. Take some time – even 10 minutes – to pay attention to how you cope. Notice what you learn from this.


Author: Dr. Ann Goelitz

Dr. Goelitz is a writer and a scholar with a wide scope of clinical experience, ranging from working with trauma survivors after September 11th to her role as a psychiatric social worker at a top New York hospital. For the past ten plus years, she has specialized in her private practice on cognitive behavioral therapy, dream analysis, and EMDR, helping clients navigate transitions and heal from trauma and loss. A seasoned educator, she has done extensive public speaking, published numerous articles, and co-authored an award winning resource directory for caregivers. Her soon-to-be published book, From trauma to healing, has received endorsement and accolades from leaders in the field of trauma. Her latest writing projects include a book on how to cope with stress written with both laypeople and professionals in mind. She has taught at Columbia University and Hunter College.

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