When we learn coping in our families growing up, it becomes habitual without us knowing. Some of the coping we learn is not helpful. We get quiet when mad, holding our anger in and ignoring it, or we talk more when nervous. Other coping we learn is positive – using the support of our families appropriately, taking a long bath when stressed, and getting rid of negative thoughts by working in the garden. We can optimize our coping by becoming aware of it, eliminating ineffective coping, and adding new more effective coping. Take some time – even 10 minutes – to pay attention to how you cope. Notice what you learn from this.